How to Get Good Date Conversation Skills

How to Get Good Date Conversation Skills

Good Date Conversation

Open your ears if you want to cultivate good date conversation skills.

What are the elements of a good date conversation?

Unexpectedly, listening is key. There’s so much braggadocio and socialization that goes into convincing guy they need to know how to impress women, when really that’s a bunch of baloney. The most important piece of dating advice for men on how to make a good date conversation is to simply open their eyes, open their ears and listen.

Listening gives you valuable information you can use to make a better judgment of the woman you’re with, plus it gives her the freedom to Chase after you (instead of the other way around). When you engage in active listening, your peripheral vision expands, your senses awake and you really begin to take in and process everything that she’s saying. Most guys get caught up in their own heads imagining how she’ll look later in the bedroom. Not to say there’s anything wrong with feelings a strong attraction to your date, in fact, that’s great. The problem comes when guys willfully ignore their surroundings, including what she’s saying, because they’ve been smitten by how hot their date is and what they think they have to do in order to ‘get in there.’

We recommend guys take a deep breath, step back, smile and engage in active listening. Instead of rambling off ‘DHV stories’ (a fancy term pickup artists use for a run-of-the-mill brag session), ask follow up questions about what she says. For example, if she says something along the lines of, “I want to visit Europe again,” that opens up a wide variety of questions to elicit new and useful information about her. Here’s some follow up question examples:

“You’ve been Europe before?”
“What were 3 things you liked about Europe?”
“Where else have you travel?”
“What do you like about travel?”
“If you could go anyway in the world, where would it be?”

In “How To Win Friends and Influence People,” Dale Carnegie tells the story of how he simply sat down and listened to a man he met for an entire evening, then when it was time to go, the guy that rambled on and on said to him, “You’re such a great conversationalist!”

People, men and women, want to talk about themselves. When you practice some self control, shut your mouth and open your ears, amazing things happen.

Of course, like with all our advice and any other dating advice for men out there, don’t take our word for it. Get out there, start meeting more women and test everything. Spend a month going on dates where you’re emphasizing your focus on listening. Spend another month going on dates making sure to ask numerous follow up questions to topics she raises. Compare the results of what happened on dates before making these changes and after. We’re confident you’ll find that, with this and the rest of the advice here at DateMasters, your lived experiences will 99.9% of the time verify what we’re saying. So get up, get out, meet more women, listen carefully to what they say, and Be Amazing.

How to Make Good First Date Conversation

How to Make Good First Date Conversation

Good First Date Conversation

A good first date conversation does NOT go like this: "Wow, this food is really... Food. Um. Do you like food?"

So, what exactly makes good first date conversation?

Should you make small talk?

Or should have a deep, meaningful conversation while dating?

This is similar to questions like “What do I talk about with girls?” or “What do I say on a date?” We’re going to give you some first date conversation advice that is a bit different from the usual advice.

Instead of small talk or deep conversations where you reveal everything about yourself, we’d like to look at the hidden third option that so many guys overlook: Having a light, playful, fun conversation.

First, let’s look at why we recommend against both small talk and deep conversation.

Why Small Talk Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

Guy: So… How’s the weather outside?

Her: Bad. It’s rainy. Just like inside my heart, because you suck at making date conversation interesting.

Guy: Oh.

Her: Yep.

Guy: So… How about them Yankees?

Why is this not good?

  • It’s boring for her.
  • It makes you seem boring.
  • It doesn’t make her laugh.
  • It defuses any romantic charge that might have existed between you two.
  • It gets everyone absolutely nowhere.

Why Being “Deep” Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

Guy: “I love deep philosophy. I really want an intelligent girl who is passionate about those kind of things. I’m really passionate. About life. And my career. And everything. Really. What are your views on philosophy?”

Her: “I… Err…”

Guy: “…Well, uh, you know, I think it’s important to stay up to date about current events like…”

Her: “I’m leaving now.”

Guy: “Wait, don’t go! Let me tell you all about my opinions on religion, politics and my pet iguana, Zulu!”

Why is this not good?

  • It’s boring for her.
  • It makes you into the guy she doesn’t want to date.
  • It doesn’t make her laugh.
  • It’s too serious.
  • It reveals way too much about yourself. Guys going overboard telling women personal information is a no-no. No happy couple is happy because the guy messed up and blew his mystery and took the all romantic charge out of the interaction on the first date. Or second. Or ever.

Keep It Light, Playful and Fun For Good First Date Conversation

(On a first date with a woman you met from a direct, confident approach on the street.)

Her: “So, how often do you talk to random women on the street?”

You: “What? Women on the street? Who, me?”

Her: “Yeah, you.”

You: “Why… I’m way too shy to do something like that…” (Delivered in an obviously joking manner.)

Her: “Hahaha! Yeah, right!”

You: “So how about you? How often do you chat with strangers on the street?”

Why is this good?

  • She’s laughing. If she’s a clever girl, you’re laughing. People who laugh together bond.
  • There’s an emotional charge. Humor is great ‘people glue.’
  • It retains personal information / mystery. Rather than vomiting personal information all over the girl, you can keep things fresh by using any questions she directs at you as a chance to make her laugh.

Here we have a girl who’s laughing and have a fun time, plus a guy who’s keeping things light, playful and funny. This is how we like our first date conversations to flow. It makes everything so much more fun (for both parties) and a lot more easier. Best of all, this is what has been tested to work the best with really high quality women.

Be Amazing,