Why Pick Up Techniques For Men Both Do And Don’t Work
We’ve got a client in town from Europe for the entire month of August, taking private one-on-one seminars.
On the plus side, he’s incredibly smart; a quick study with a near photographic memory. Multi-lingual, blond haired, blue eyed, and the girls in this town seem to really like him.
On the ‘challenging’ side, he’s studied practically pretty much everything ever written, recorded, and published about every Pick Up technique in every book, CD, DVD, movie, blog, website, forum, lair, in the known galaxy … and insists on asking questions about it all.
On the UBER plus side – he can approach hot girls fearlessly, relentlessly, joyfully, and is completely willing to follow our milestones of asking her name, telling her he’s happy to meet her (while shaking her hand), making her laugh, asking for her phone number, making her laugh some more, and then leaving her on a high note. Lord knows we wish all our students came to us with this skill already hardwired into their neurology. Makes training them a breeze!
That skill alone (the willingness to walk up to and talk to lots and lots and lots of girls) will make it possible for him to learn in a very short time what really works – and what is just gas – in the land of meeting women.
Do These Pick Up Techniques Work?
“Hey, I’ve got a question. Do Opinion Openers work?”
“Does Offering Value work?”
“Do Indirect Openers work?”
“Does Cocky Funny work?”
“Does ‘Building Momentum’ work?”
“Does the Perfume Test really work?”
“Does thinking ‘I am enough’ really work?”
“Does ‘The Cube’ work?”
And it goes on and on and on.
Of course, we answer all his questions as best we can while sticking as close as possible to our curriculum and schedule.
But even as we weather the barrage, it got us thinking a little deeper than usual. And for that, we’re really thankful for having him as our student.
So Do Pick Up Techniques For Men Really Work?
John Robie: “Yeah, it all works.”
Douglas Hall: “Actually, none of it works.”
And there we were.
Both of us right, and neither of us wrong.
“See, if she likes you already, then pretty much everything is gonna ‘work’ in that she’ll happily give you her name, shake hands with you, laugh at your corny jokes, give you her phone number, joyfully answer your phone calls, enthusiastically accept your date offer, actually show up on time, and then have lots of fun with you on dates.”
“So, in that sense, yeah, it all works. But then again, on the other hand, if she isn’t into your looks or image and personality, then it doesn’t really matter what you say or what you do, she’s just not gonna be all that gone over you. Sure, she might be polite and all (but possibly not), but it’s very, very low probability that you’ll get her number, and even if you do, even more low probability that you’ll get a date with her, and even then, have fun with her. So, in that case, no, none of it works.”
“And then, if she likes you already, then all of those Pick Up techniques that ‘worked’ all actually don’t work because they aren’t actually doing anything/ She already likes you. So at the same time all of it works since you can be successful while using them and none of it works since it isn’t actually doing anything.”
The thing is, this client will actually go out and open thousands of girls (tens of thousands, really) in the coming years and find out for himself if what we’re telling him is true. He’s the kind of guy who will be willing to go out there, do the work, collect all the stats, and determine what’s really what.
“See, 98.6% of the Pick Up techniques you read on all the Pick up ‘Forums’ and ‘Lairs’ is written by guys who would sooner slit their wrists and go dive into a tank full of piranhas and Great White sharks than walk up to any hot girl they see on the street, in the mall, on the escalator, at the club, in the bookstore, on the bus, in the train, etc., and say ‘Hi, what’s your name?’
They’re not meeting near enough women to actually test the validity of any of their pet theories, openers, inner game antics, concepts, what have you. In fact, we like to say to guys ‘Show me you can open anytime, anywhere, competently, and THEN we’ll listen to what you have to say (although we may not necessarily believe you). But if you can’t step up and step to the girls, then we really don’t wanna hear it, because it’s all just gas – and we’re calling you out: B.S!”
Now sure, if a dude is running Rich Guy Simp/Trick Game and getting girls by flashing bling and making it rain with Champagne, wine, and recreational substances in a rockin’ pad on the High End of Town, then sure – ANYTHING he says is gonna work (those Golddiggers and Mercenaries will ALWAYS find him young and gorgeous), and that will be also be true for all the Parasites/Roadies he’s gathered around him running Kato Kaelin Game, but for the average Joe, not living it all large and in luxury, his results will largely depend on whether he’s talking to a girl who actually likes him from the jump, or not.
“Spend less time thinking about the routines, the ‘Inner Game’, the openers, blah-blah – i.e. what the Pick up community says ‘works’ and put more energy into considering the girl – is she sending you all the right signals that she’s into you, or not?”
That’s what really ‘works’ – your ability to gauge her response to your presence, image, looks and personality.
Our guy from Europe gets this.
As he opens yet another hot girl with an easy smile on his face and a twinkle in his eye.
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