Some Basic Men’s Body Language Tips
Body language is a hot topic with guys who want to improve their sex and dating lives. And for good reason. I know from firsthand experience that improving my body language improved my results with women.
Why are these body language tips for men important?
For starters, good posture and body language is a sign of healthy self-esteem. Women with healthy self-esteem will date men with the same.
This about this: The first thing that a girl sees is – YOU!
Before you ever open your mouth she already has 87.136203% of the information she needs to decide if she likes you or not.
This means your fashion, your posture, your facial expression, your body language and your overall image all play a huge role in deciding whether or not you even get the chance to talk to her and show her your wonderfully charming personality.
Whether she consciously realizes it or not, she will form her initial opinion of you based entirely on your looks. If she isn’t into you from the start – body language and all – then there is almost nothing you can do to change it.
If you don’t pass the initial looks (this includes your body language) test, you’re out. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Most women won’t even realize that it is your body language that is the source of issue. All they know is that they had a “strange feeling” about you.
With that in mind, here are a few body language tips for men that you can use now to start improving your sex and dating life.
Easy Body Language Tips for Men
When standing or walking:
- Stand up straight, shoulders back, chest out.
- Focus on keeping your spine straight.
- When talking to her (especially the first time) avoid showing too much interest (leaning in, standing too close)
- No slouching.
- Keep your back straight.
- Avoid leaning forward or into her much.
When first meeting her, our body language should be non-threatening and confident.
“What exactly does non-threatening and confident mean?”
Great question, imaginary person who asks questions that help me make my point!
Generally, you want to avoid showing too much interest with your body language, especially early on. We like to avoid showing too much interest in her until we’ve really gotten to know her and then only when we know she is a great girl.
Non-threatening means you avoid showing too much interest before you’ve gotten to know her. If a dude is fawning over her before she has even spoken, what do you think that communicates? To answer my own rhetorical question, it indicates he might have low standards and that he’s easy – he’s blown yourself out of the water already. The basic line of thinking is: If you’re this into a girl who you don’t know, you’ll be like this with every other pretty girl who you don’t know.
She wants a challenge; a guy who she has to catch. Not a guy who will roll over and do tricks for any girl with a pretty smile. You can communicate a large portion of this with your body language.
Gradually, as you get to know her- and she has proven herself consistently as a really great girl – then you can start showing a bit more open body language with her. Let her earn it. Good women will appreciate the fact that she had to earn your trust since it communicates that you have standards and that it takes more than a pretty face to impress you. Of course you can NEVER say any of this; it simply has to be who you are. Your actions count more than your words.
Confident means that you have strong, poised body language, even if it isn’t directed at her. When you face the world, you do it with your head up, shoulders back, chest out, and looking people directly in the eye.
Actions to Take to Improve Your Body Language
Reading this blog about body language tips is great… Even better is when you actually do something to improve your body language.
Get into some classes that teach you how to move your body: yoga, dancing, Tai Chi / other martial arts. Particularly when it comes to body language, martial arts are great because they tend to focus on proper body form.
Generally, getting in better shape is always a good way to improve your overall health (which will improve posture and body language). That means it’s time to hit the gym (another great place to meet women by the way!).
Do you work at a computer all day?
Focus on sitting up straight for extended periods of time. At first it will be uncomfortable. This is good! It’s important to focus on sitting up straight, especially when your body is uncomfortable doing it. Eventually, as your posture gets better, your body will start to naturally want to sit with good body language.
Get into an acting classes. This is an excellent way to become more aware of how to control your body movements. Good actors can use their body language to communicate a variety of emotions without ever opening their mouth. When you understand what your body language communicates to women, you’ll have greater control over your sex and dating life.
Take a video of yourself to see what your body language actually looks like. In our dating bootcamps we will sometimes film our students in order to show them what they actually look like. Most of the time they’re shocked at what they see! Simply by seeing themselves the same way that everyone else does they are able to fix many obvious body language mishaps.
Hopefully, you put some of these ideas into action in the very near future (hint: like adjusting your position in your computer seat and sitting up straight right now). Good luck with improving your body language. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to leave them below in the comment box.
Jack D. Serrano
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