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Cultivating Gratitude To Build Self-Esteem

Date: August 10th, 2012 | Author: John Robie | 2 Comments
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Cultivating Gratitude

Cultivating gratitude goes a long way when it comes to success in dating and relating.

Our fellow blogger George over at The Man Up Blog recent posted an interesting article about building self-esteem, gratitude and the connection between the two. We often encourage guys to work on their self-esteem as we consider it vital for building a happy dating life.

A lot of our ideas about self-esteem come from Nathaniel Branden, Marilyn Sorensen and Manuel J. Smith (and we highly recommend their books and exercises). Cultivating gratitude ties into many aspects of self-esteem, particularly self-acceptance (“I’m thankful for how things are”) and living purposefully (“I’m thankful for all I’ve accomplished”). Thus, we’d like to present a couple additional strategies for practicing gratitude in order to work on self-esteem in order to increase our overall satisfaction with our dating lives.

I’m Alive And In (Place)

Upon waking, I sometimes think, “Ahhhhh! I’m alive and in (city where I wake up at). What could be better?”

Unless you’re a zombie or ghost or some other undead creature, it’s tough to argue with the whole being alive part. Plenty to be thankful about for not yet being dead.

As for being thankful about where you’re at… Well, maybe the physical location you’re in isn’t to your liking. That’s fine. Still plenty of reason to feel thankful. Just think, not only can you get to work improving your environment (perhaps by even moving), it’s far better than being in the middle of Antarctica wearing nothing but your underwear. Or lost in space with no space suit.

Number 2

I once read a hilarious piece of ancient Chinese wisdom in a book on Eastern philosophy: the only requirement for being happy is taking a dump.

If you can squat down and make a bowel movement, that means 1) you’re alive 2) you’ve eaten sometime in the last day or so and 3) your digestive system is (at least partially) working. All which are things to be totally grateful about! Things are looking up, especially compared to being a zombie, who may have eaten sometime in the last day or so, but who certainly is NOT alive, NOR does its digestive system work all that well. Zombies don’t have much to be thankful about, which might be why they’re not very successful at dating.

Next time you head to the toilet, remember what an incredible chance this is to feel completely thankful and happy at how your life has gone so far.

Be Amazingly Grateful,
John Robie

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  1. How To Build Self Confidence says:

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