Why Do We Direct Approach Women?

The shortest distance between two points is a straight – direct – line. Unless you have some freaky teleportation device. We’re working on that.

Why Do We Direct Approach Women?

You see a hot-looking girl and you roll on up to her, “Hi, what’s your name?”

And it begins.

Either she’ll like the way you look – or she won’t.

Either she’ll like the way you talk – or she won’t.

Either she’ll like your image/personality – or she won’t.

She’ll decide on your look in less than a second.

She’ll decide on your voice tone the second you say ‘Hi!’

She’ll decide on your image/personality within the following 3 seconds ~ 1 minute.

Just keeping it 100% real here, guy.

If you look like a muscular version of Leonardo DiCaprio, all blonde-haired and blue-eyed and into surfing and salsa dancing, and she’s into short, dark-skinned, Hip-Hop dancers, then you’re most likely SOL (s**t outta luck).

Either she likes the way you look – or she doesn’t.

Every woman’s got her ‘type’; the kind of guy she sees herself (in her mind’s eye) riding off into the sunset with.

That’s the guy she dreams about and hopes will walk up to her someday, all bold as brass, and sweep her off her feet. All good news if you match that image, not too good if you’re with her – looking all different from her ‘Dream Guy’ – and ‘Mr Perfect’ waltzes into the club, bar, or her office while you’re not there. Color her gone.

See, you can get her, but you probably won’t be able to keep her.

The pickup artists and gurus will tell you that looks don’t matter.

They’ll tell you that your words and body language can override her being into a guy’s looks.

At DateMasters, we’ll call B.S. on the B.S. that is.

Of course looks matter for women.

They always have (unless she is a Golddigger or a Mercenary – for those women you’re ALWAYS young & gorgeous … as long as you’ve got what she wants).

Despite what they say. How could a creature who spends hours in a mall looking for a perfect shade in a lousy pair of freakin’ shoes, not care ‘all that much’ about how her guy looks?

You mean to tell me women swoon over Brad Pitt, Robert Pattinson, Justin Bieber, Ryan Seacreast, Chris Evans, and Liam Hemsworth because of their noble personalities?

Yeah, riiiiight.

Pul-lease.

We always tell our guys to keep their opening words simple when they approach her in order to avoid what we call ‘false positives.’

It doesn’t matter that she talks to you when you asked her where the bookstore was – perhaps she’s simply be polite.

It doesn’t matter that she tells you which cologne smells better on which wrist – perhaps she’s just bored and you’re filling the role of entertaining dancing monkey.

It doesn’t matter that she tells you who lies more, women or men – perhaps she’s just amazed someone would roll out such a lame opener 7 years after ‘The Game’ was published and every girl knows all about the PUAs and their silly games. We avoid all those ‘situational’ ‘interactive’ and ‘opinion’ openers because we know none of that fluff matters.

What matters is that she gives you her name, her phone number, and accepts your date offers when you call her up. Since that’s the most important information we want and need, we say ‘Why wait? Get to it!’

We go for her name right away because we know unless she likes our look we probably won’t get it.

Good!

We don’t want to date a girl who isn’t into us for our looks anyways.

Bye and have a nice life.

We go for the phone number because it allows us a really simple way to contact her for a date, but, more importantly, it allows us to evaluate how much she likes our image/personality since we know the faster she turns over her digits the more she probably likes us (or wants/needs a free meal/some company, but we’ll figure that out during the actual date).

Why waste time beating around the bush when we know what we want and know which kind of girls will give it to us? Bottom Line: IF she likes our looks and our image/personality right outta the chute, she’ll happily give us her name, her phone number, and accept our date offer.

Otherwise, not.

Pretty simple, non?

Then, years from now, when we’re all happy and giddy celebrating our 55th wedding anniversary, you can smile softly when she turns to you and says, “You know, you had me all those years ago when you said ‘Hi! What’s your name?’”

Be Amazing.
Douglas Hall