The DateMasters Dating Advice Blog

How do you know if a girl likes you? This is perhaps the most important question for any guy who wants more, better and easier sex, dates and relationships. If you've read our blog or book you know that we advocate being straight-up and direct with women while Identifying women who like us. Guys get the most sex, the best dates and the most fulfilling relationships when they only focus on girls who like them. Trying to get a girl who doesn't like you is the quick road to frustration-town, stress-ville and no-sex-city (read: not fun places). And what is the payoff to knowing the signs a girl likes you? Read more...

If that is all you do, and you are meeting plenty of women, you will have more sex than you know what to do with. With great girls, too. Sex is what happens when two people are into each other and having a great time. You don't have to force it. You don't have to try to trick girls into having sex with you. When a woman really likes you, she wants to have sex with you. The key to building a fulfilling, sex-filled relationship with a great woman is to always keep her happy, amazed and having fun. Read more...

Right now, the guys at DateMasters are in the process of updating and revising our book, Meet More Women. This will be the 3rd edition. Guys who already bought Meet More Women (or buy it before the 3rd edition) will still get free access to this release. No extra purchase necessary. Why are we revising it? Because it can be better. The concepts, advice, mindsets and strategies in the book will stay the same. The big difference will be: Read more...

Recently, a reader said something interesting in response to my call for questions on What to Text a Girl. Hey DateMasters, I've been flirting with a girl online over a couple weeks... I got her number, and I'm tryin' to meet up with her sometime soon to kick it n swap some music... It's been two days... What should I text her when I invite her to meet up.?! Read more...

Texting is a hot topic so the guys here at DateMasters are going to make it very simple for you to know exactly what to text a girl. Here's the deal: You send us a message you've had from a girl and we will send you exactly how we would respond. You can send our text, if you want, or you can simply compare it to what you would have written (or what you did write). We will tell you exactly what to text a girl In order to give you the best custom text possible, we will need to know a few things. What is the situation? (After a date? Boyfriend/girlfriend? Met online?) Anything you can tell us about your situation and relation to the girl the better. Read more...

"OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD WHAT AM I GONNA SAY WHAT AM I GONNA SAY? ARGH! I let her walk right by me!" Sound familiar? Although we certainly hope not, a lot of guys come to us asking about how to approach women. Many of them ask how to approach women while getting rid of that kind of panicked self-talk. Those guys tell us that their own inner voices hold them back with excuses like, "I'm not ready yet," "She's too hot," or "I don't know what to say." Some guys label this as "approach anxiety," (a word made up by Pickup Artists that actually creates more problems than solutions). Instead of pontificating on what the problem is, I simply want to focus on a few mental strategies you can use to start approaching women now. I want you to get out there and talk to lots of women - not chattering with other dudes about your "anxiety" or whatever. Read more...

Why are these body language tips for men important? For starters, good posture and body language is a sign of healthy self-esteem. Women with healthy self-esteem will date men with the same. This about this: The first thing that a girl sees is - YOU! Read more...

A major roadblock mental roadblock for me (aka, BS excuse) was the fact that in my small university, I simply didn't know where to begin looking to meet women. I mean, everybody like, goes to the frats, so like, what's wrong with playing pong, or like, Kings or whatever? Horseradish. There's plenty of places where a gentleman like yourself can find fine young ladies of a respectable caliber if you just put on your thinking cap for a moment. Read more...

Anyone who pays the slightest attention to sports in the US has seen the bizarre story of Notre Dame star linebacker Manti Te'o. Notre Dame's star, award-winning, all-American, Heisman Trophy runner-up linebacker was in long-distance relationship with a girl he had never met (he told the public they had met). They met on Facebook/Twitter and then progressed to talking on the phone. During the season, she got in a car wreck and then died of cancer. He used it as motivation during the season (something that became one of the more moving stories of the season). A couple weeks ago, we find out that she was never real. It was some dude playing a joke on Te'o, pretending to be a girl. Read more...

And that's what I told him. “Sam,” I said, “You're a victim of the hang out / hook up culture.” He raised an eyebrow with a quizzical look. “What's that?" he said. Read more...

Lately I've felt very frustrated while going out to talk to girls. There are some girls who never speak to anybody, and others who don't make it easy for me because they just aren't into me from the start. So should I feel sad about it? Read more...

DateMasters Podcast Episode 3 – January 2013 Happy new year everybody. John Robie here, bringing you this month’s DateMasters podcast featuring myself, Douglas Hall and Jack D. Serrano. This round we talked about dealing with flakes, as well as the attractive combination of using humor, mystery and challenge with women you meet and date. Got [...] Read more...

Short answer - Dump her. Immediately. Toss her contact information into the abyss (read: delete her information from your phone, delete her messages unread, and never contact her again). For many guys, this is easier said than done so I'll give you some advice on how to handle the manipulation that she will throw your way when she sees you have the balls to dump her for one of the worst deal-breakers in a relationship. For the purposes of this blog post, we are assuming that the guy is in a mutually exclusive, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with a women who then breaks that commitment by cheating. Read more...

Have you ever been talking to a girl and she says she has a boyfriend? Or maybe you ask for her phone number and then she says she has a boyfriend? You thought things were going great. She's hot. She seemed interested in you. She laughed at your jokes. She casually touched your arm while you talked. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, the girl says she has a boyfriend. It happens. Most dating coaches will tell you to plow through it or ignore it. Our advice is different and I've found that it makes everything a whole lot easier and more enjoyable. Read more...

Rather than picturing yourself jumping in front of a girl walking fast and minding her own business, imagine catching up to and matching her speed. Instead of going hiwhatsyourname, take a deep breath and say in a clear, audible voice, "Excuse me." (Emphasis on the second syllable of "excuse.") Read more...

While clubs and bars aren't my thing anymore these days, I remember one night in particular when I went out with him to a trendy nightlife venue. After a "state-pumping session" he started the night off relatively well by talking to about 2 or 3 girls, but then he ended up sitting alone at a table in the corner playing Angry Birds on his phone. Read more...

To try to flirt with this sassy young vixen, my friend thought it would be a good idea to present himself as the "deep, misunderstood thinker" image. "Some days," he said, "I look out the window at all the city lights... And think about how each person here has their own dreams..." Keep in mind this was about 3 minutes after he met her. Read more...

If she flakes shortly before the date and notifies you by phone... If she flakes shortly before the date by email... If she doesn't notify you before the date and simply doesn't show up (ie, she stands you up... There's only one correct move. Read more...

Our friend Patrick scheduled a first date. He sat patiently in the coffee shop, reading a book and occasionally checking the time on his phone until the appointed meeting time passed. He waited another 5 minutes. Another 10. He glanced around nervously every minute or so, looking for his date, then went back to reading his book. "Is she coming?" he thought. "Where is she? Did I get flaked on?" An hour later, he packed up stuff stuff, threw away his single paper cup and walked out the door to head home. Read more...

"Ex-girlfriend?" Before reading anything else, I immediately knew exactly where this story headed - down a dark, dark alley... And not just any dark, dark alley - one that he had gotten hurt in by going down before! Read more...